Thursday, November 14, 2013

The Forgotten Child (ויצא ווישלח / Genesis 28:10-36:43)



B”H

            This week I’m double dippin’ with two great parshas: Vayeitzei (ויצא) and Vayishlach (וישלח). Procrastination and cramming for embryology left me with double the responsibility, but I have two excellent sections with which to grapple. Part of my delay, beyond embryology woes, was a struggle to rationalize the first section of this week's blogpost. In fact, it wasn't until after reading this current week's parshah that I found my answer. So, interestingly, these two sections together provide great insight in mutual consideration that I perhaps would not have seen in one week's section.

Vayeitzei (literally, “and he left”) details the movement of Jacob from Beersheba to Charan. (After successfully taking the birthright and blessings from his older brother Esau in Toldot, I’d assume home is wicked awkward...I’d probably run away as well, especially if Esau’s going to be all temperamental about it.) Back to the story! In a most vivid dream on his journey, Jacob sees a ladder ascending to Heaven and beholds the sight of G-D, who promises Jacob the land for his descendants’ inheritance. Jacob eventually works for Uncle Laban and falls in love with the farmer’s daughter (huh…wonder if that’s the inspiration for Jason Aldean’s song…). ANYWAY, crafty Laban isn’t just going to agree to their marriage willy-nilly. For seven years of labor in the fields, Laban agrees to bless the marriage of Jacob and Rachel On the wedding night, however, Laban switches the daughters, and Jacob marries Rachel’s older sister, Leah, as Jacob discovers the morning after. Jacob marries Rachel a week later, but not after agreeing to another seven years of labor for Laban. After fourteen years of labor, and, oh yeah, TWELVE CHILDREN from various wives and concubines, Jacob is tired of the Charan lifestyle, and despite further coaxing from Uncle Laban, Jacob starts the journey back home. Angry Laban isn’t going to let good labor leave so easily…or his precious daughters!! But G-D provides safety from Jacob’s flight. The portion ends with a pact between Jacob and Laban as witnessed by a pile of rocks.

Phew. Our hero, Jacob, is safe, and he can escape to the cushy life back home in Beersheba. Oh wait, that whole thing with Esau…awkward.

Enter Vayishlach (literally, “and he sent”).

This week, we recount Jacob sending angels to Esau in hopes for finding reconciliation…only to find out from the angels that Esau has gathered an army…ruh roh. What’s Jacob to do? He accepts the terms of war but again sends a peace offering to Esau to try and avoid more strife. On his journey to war, Jacob gets into an all-night brawl with an angel embodying the spirit of Esau. Jacob suffers a hip injury, but prevails and is renamed Israel (literally, he who prevails over the Divine). We reach Chapter 33 of Genesis. (Insert dramatic pause as Esau and Jacob meet). In a striking turn of events, Esau hugs and kisses his little brother!! They reconcile, but part ways. As Jacob finds yet another place to call home, his daughter Dinah is raped by Shechem; in retaliation, her brothers Simeon and Levi murder the males of Shechem’s princedom. The thirteenth child of Jacob is born: Benjamin. Reuben sleeps with one of Jacob’s concubines, and thus loses his birthright. The family returns to a dying Isaac in Chebron. Vayishlach ends with an account of Esau’s family and the kingdom of Edom.

When I was contemplating these stories together, I couldn’t help but think of my great-grandmother Rose (ז״ל), who herself was one of twelve siblings, and the parallels between that family and the “Twelve Tribes of Israel.” I’ve spent some time trying to track down my relatives from this extended family in my fascination with my genealogy, and have had notable success, I might add!! Genealogy is a Jewish sport after all, certainly seen today in everyone’s favorite Jewish game: Jewish Geography. The Torah places emphasis on the remembrance of family, otherwise it wouldn’t list ad nauseum descendants of descendants until one is absolutely farblondzshet (פאַרבלאָנדזשעט, a Yiddish expression dear to my heart expressing a complete and utter sense of being lost that no English word quite captures).

And my attention is turned to Dinah, the non-represented child. She is not included in the Tribes of Israel, and poor Dinah is only remembered in the rape she graphically endures at the hands of Shechem. Dinah’s name may mean judged or vindicated in Hebrew, but to say she got the short end of the stick is REALLY understating her situation and appreciation in the words of the Torah. Even her child by Shechem is counted among the children of Simeon, not Dinah! That’s like saying I came from my great-great-uncle Isaac instead of Rose.

For a book which so harps on the importance of male (and female) lineages and accuracy in genealogy, I’m in shock that the word of G-D simply uses Dinah as a tool to show the vindication of Jacob’s brothers over Shechem. Her essence and humanity is stripped of all meaning. What is the Torah saying here…women cannot have lineages? Correct me if I’m wrong, but Judaism is at its essence a matriarchal religion, in that the strictest interpretation cites the validation of one’s Jewish identity from birth from a Jewish mother!

These facts do not reconcile.

Or do they?

I interpret this section not as a representation of the way G-D wished the world to work, but instead a section intended to actually incite the exact outrage I feel when I read this section. G-D does not forget his children -- otherwise Dinah would not be mentioned at all. Thus, a reason MUST exist for G-D mentioning her. G-D doesn’t need to have Dinah raped to validate the moral rectitude of Simeon and Levi. The story of Joseph will shatter their high standings in the eyes of readers of Torah. So, what is Dinah’s purpose? To me, she is a vehicle for rebellion against the societal constraints. Praise G-D, for G-D finds favor in all of the children of the world, and Dinah is remembered in the greatest story G-D tells. Dinah serves as a symbol for change, progress, and constant questioning of social norms. In its presentation of factual inaccuracy, these sections of Torah are G-D’s message to QUESTION and SPEAK OUT. As a Jew, a medical professional, a son, and a member of “Society at-large,” this section empowers me to question the world, not assume societal rules are etched in stone, and ask big questions. I hope it provides you with similar liberating sentiments in the collective goal to better our world.

Perhaps, in this way, we can do what the Torah failed to do: rightfully and honorably preserve the blessed memory of Dinah.

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